How to ask your coach for more playing time

It’s definitely tough when you feel like you're not getting the opportunities you deserve on the field. Many players have faced similar situations and wondered, “Why am I not playing?” even when they’re giving their all, being positive teammates, and playing well.

Approaching your coach can definitely be challenging, but handling it with the right mindset and approach can make a big difference. Here’s how to ask your coach for more playing time without really asking for more playing time.

Approach your coach at a time that’s convenient for them, ideally after practice or a game when they have time to discuss your questions. Be prepared to have an honest and positive conversation with them. You are the one who needs the answers, so don't ask mom or dad to speak for you. Regardless of your age, you should be able to communicate with your coach, and they will appreciate that you did.

The following are the ideal things to ask:

• Coach, Is there anything you think I can do to improve my game and get more opportunities going forward and this season? 

• Coach, Are there any particular skills or areas you’d like me to focus on during training?

• Coach, Is there anything you would like me to work on away from training?

• Coach, I feel that I am working extremely hard in training and giving it all that I can. Is there anything you think would benefit me to improve my chances of not only getting better but also seeing the field again? 

These are perfect examples of ways that you can ask your coach for more playing time without saying, “Coach, I want to play more.”

Remember that your coach is the one who decides whether or not you play in games! So, give your coach the opportunity to share as much knowledge and insight as they can.

Positively listen to your coach’s feedback and act on the feedback that is given, whether it is to motivate you to work harder, get you thinking about joining a new team during the off-season, or just to obtain a different viewpoint.

In the end, you want your coach to know that you are always open to learning new skills, improving your existing ones, and implementing their recommendations into your play.

By approaching the situation with maturity and a genuine desire to improve, you increase your chances of making a strong impression with your coach and earning more playing time. 

Ask your coach what they expect from you! You'll be glad you did!